Comments on: Fairness and “Choice for Men”

By: mythago

mythago — Tue, 14 Jun 2005 03:50:25 +0000

I have talked to guys who have to support children from a former marriage, and the numbers just don’t add up

Have you talked to any of their ex-wives for their take on how the numbers add up?

By: Kim (basement variety!)

Kim (basement variety!) — Tue, 14 Jun 2005 03:02:06 +0000

Childcare alone is a huge cost. If a woman works 40 hours a week and tries to get the least expensive legitimate childcare out there, it often runs anywhere from 3.00 to 5.00 an hour. That alone is 100.00 to 200.00 a week - 400.00 to 800.00 a month. Childcare costs are something single mothers agonize over, and of course you want to not put your child with the bargain basement under the table care-givers.

It’s always amazing to me. Either deny women choice, or blame them for it. Ain’t it grand?

By: Elena

Elena — Tue, 14 Jun 2005 00:29:11 +0000

Bald Eagle: nature gave the choice to women, once there is a pregnancy. And permit me a little schadenfreud here: we women learn about advantages nature and “nature” give to men our whole lives, so now you have an idea of how it is for us.

By: alsis38.9

alsis38.9 — Mon, 13 Jun 2005 23:25:07 +0000

“…Somehow, other “whole”? families seem to get by on a lot less per kid. ”

Errr, even single and childfree by choice, I can vouch for the fact that living alone often costs more than living together. Look at rent/mortgage and utilities, just for starters. It’s a lot cheaper to live since my partner and I consolidated under one roof. Why would that be different for a single parent with a child (or several) ? The kid can’t go to work, after all. At least not in this country.

By: Kory Doszpoly

Kory Doszpoly — Mon, 13 Jun 2005 21:58:41 +0000

Is child support really less than half of what it usually costs to raise a child?

I have talked to guys who have to support children from a former marriage, and the numbers just don’t add up. Somehow, other “whole”? families seem to get by on a lot less per kid.

By: Q Grrl

Q Grrl — Tue, 10 May 2005 14:57:44 +0000

There’s plenty o’ black babies needing adoption.

By: Bald Eagle

Bald Eagle — Mon, 09 May 2005 21:08:36 +0000

I was once forced to face the though decision of choosing life or death for my unborn child.

My ex and I just started dating and she got pregnant. I told her that I was going to support her decision no matter which way she would decide to go. I said this knowing that ultimately the decision was hers, and I wouldn’t able to do much, if we didn’t agree. In the end, she decided to get an abortion - and truth to be told ““ I felt off the hook. We went our separate ways two years later.

But I have been wondering for a long time now: what would I have done had I been given the choice to raise my child as a single parent, only if she had been willing to give birth, or been forced to do so by law.

If there is a willing father to choose life instead a medical-waste dumpster for and unborn child, why should the woman alone be in the position to make that choice.

All I know, that I may have gone for it, and she’d be five years old by now.

By: Sheelzebub

Sheelzebub — Tue, 15 Feb 2005 21:36:00 +0000

Begone, spamming poopyhead.