More on the Trials and Tribulations of Breast-Feeding
So, Amp just posted a bit about whether it is offensive to breast-feed while in an interview for a new faculty member. I started to write a response in the comments section, but my response is a little too long to do so there.
It boggles the mind to think about breast-feeding being seen as “offensive.” It harkens back, somewhat, to that discussion a few weeks ago about fetishes. Western society (particularly US society) has sexualized, and yes, fetishized, the female breast to the point that many people find it impossible to see the breast as anything but a sexual object — which says a lot about our society (and none of it’s very good).
While I find it offensive that anyone would find a new mother breast-feeding her child while in a meeting offensive, the sad truth is, breast-feeding women are often treated much worse than simply being offended by them. Two recent cases are perfect examples of what I’m talking about here.
First is the case of Jacqueline Mercado and her boyfriend, Johnny Fernandez, who were charged with (and indicted on) “sexual performance of a child,” a second-degree felony punishable by up to 20 years in prison. While these charges were later dismissed, their children were also taken away and placed in foster care. One year later, they are still in foster care.
And what was it that brought about these actions? A picture of Mercado breast-feeding her one-year old son. After a one year separation, Fernandez had just emigrated from Lima, Peru, to Richardson, Texas, to be with Mercado, their one-year old son, and Mercado’s 4-year old son from a previous marriage.
Joyous in their reunion, they took a number of pictures of the family.
The photographs they took over several days in late October included pictures of Fernandez reunited with the family at their modest home in suburban Richardson. Others captured their 1-year-old son Rodrigo, and 4-year-old Pablizio, from Mercado’s earlier marriage, playing in a neighborhood park. Using the camera’s timer, they also took three snapshots of themselves, naked in their bed. They arranged their bodies in ways that showed less flesh than most freeway billboards.
A half-dozen others recorded the kids at bath time. Fernandez took several photos of the boys “playing around,” naked and innocent, with the oldest flashing a big smile. Mercado, who says she often bathed with the kids, is in several of the shots unclothed from the waist up, holding her arm modestly across her bare chest.
In one–the photo that would threaten to send Mercado and her boyfriend to prison–the infant Rodrigo is suckling her left breast.
After dropping off the film at the local Eckard to be developed, a technician decided they were suspicious, and reported them to the police. The police concurred with the technician and began an investigation. Although they have found absolutely nothing to implicate either Mercado or Fernandez as either abusive or users or makers of child pornography, Mercado and Fernandez were charged and indicted, and their children have been taken away.
The article is a long one, but I highly recommend reading it, as it provides quite a bit more description of exactly what happened that I have here.
Oh, and in case you were wondering — breast-feeding images are a second-degree felony in Richardson. I’m guessing they don’t have any major art museums in Richardson.
In another recent story, a Canadian woman was classified as a “foreign national in international airspace on an international flight during a time of war” on a flight between Houston and Vancouver. All because she refused to stop breast-feeding her child after a male passenger complained.
What did the American male passenger think they were - weapons of mass distraction?
This is just one more example of the ridiculous double-standards women are expected to live with. If they work outside the home, they are neglectful mothers. If they stay at home, they are lazy. They are told over and over that breast-feeding is best. But, if they do it, they are found to be “offensive” or even a “terrorist threat.” And if they take a picture of it to record for posterity, they will be classified as “child pornographers.”
When will Americans stop fetishizing the breast to the point that a breast-feeding mother is made into a sexual object?


