Archive for October, 2005

More Silly Links

Posted by Ampersand | October 24th, 2005

South Park Aristocrats
Bean emailed me this link to Cartman doing “the Aristocrats.” As you’d expect, it’s not for the thin-skinned, or even for people with taste.

The Simpsons Embiggens English
Check out this totally craptacular Wikipedia list of words and phrases made up by The Simpsons.

Damn Cool Illusion
Well, it is. Make sure to read the directions. Via Crooked Timber.

How to Spoil Harry Potter
When the most recent Harry Potter book came out, there was a trend of using LiveJournal graphics to deliver… a certain spoiler. It’s pretty darn obnoxious, but if you’re not one of the people who had the book’s end spoiled, the sheer variety of spoiler-graphics is pretty amusing.

Evolution-Themed Beer Ad
It’s pretty entertaining. Wonder if they’ll air it in Kansas? (By the, the latest poll shows most Americans don’t believe in evolution.) Via Boing Boing.

Best Ads on TV Website
It’s embarrassing, but I really do like good commercials. Plus, they include British and Aussie commercials, which are often better than US commercials. (Possibly because commercials in the UK are broadcast between programs, rather than mid-program, forcing them to be more creative in order to get people to watch?)

Why the Slope Won’t Slip

Posted by Ampersand | October 24th, 2005

Cathy at The Y Files is right on target when she writes:

the reasoning used to justify the legalization of same-sex marriage (i.e., the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court’s assertion, in Goodrich v. Department of Public Health, that marrying “the person of one’s choice” is a fundamental right) could be used to support legalization of polygamy. For that to happen, however, there would have to be (1) a non-fringe political movement advocating for the right to multi-partner marriage, and (2) widespread social acceptance of multi-partner relationships. Of course, (1) and (2) are related. At this point in time, neither factor is present: the polyamory movement has about as much influence as the Flat Earth Society, and multi-partner relationships are almost universally regarded as either immoral or just plain weird.

To that, I’d add that even if SSM is banned, it will still be possible for poly marriages to be legalized if (1) and (2) happens. So although you can argue for the existence of a theoretical slope between them (as Young does), in practice there’s not much connection between them.

(Slight nit-pik: ploygamy is already legal, so the question isn’t “legalization of polygamy,” as Cathy states; what’s at issue is if polyamorous marriages will be legally recognized.)

28% of Americans Say They Wouldn’t Vote For a Woman As President

Posted by Ampersand | October 23rd, 2005

According to a new WNBC poll, 28% of American adults say they would not vote for a woman for President regardless of party.

By sex, 23% of women and 33% of men say they wouldn’t vote for a woman for President.

By political affiliation, 21% of Democrats, 29% of Republicans, and 31% of independants wouldn’t vote for a woman for President.

The numbers look better if you concentrate on younger people; for instance, “only” 16% of women under 45 say they’d never vote for a woman.

Hat tip: Pam at Pandagon.

Student Penalized by WSU for Right-Wing Views

Posted by Ampersand | October 23rd, 2005

Washington State University apparently has acted in a repulsive manner, penalizing a right-wing student for his politics.

Gosh, I hate agreeing with John Leo.

Pie in the Face: Violence, Protest or Revenge?

Posted by Ampersand | October 23rd, 2005

Feeling for a fur-favoring fashion editor PETA pied in the puss, LAmom lamented:

Is this harmless protesting? … I don’t think so. I have no problem with people denouncing and even embarrassing those whom they consider to be wrongdoers. But pieing is a use of force, an act of violence.

PETA’s politics aside (like most folks, I have a lot of problems with anything PETA-associated), I don’t think LAmom really answered her own question. Where’s the harm? Since LAmom defines an incident in which, apparently, no physical harm was done as “violence,” then she can’t logically establish that harm was done merely by saying it was “an act of violence.”

I enjoy pie-protests. Not because I believe that pies are an effective method of creating change, but because I resent the people who have the gall, the conceit, the pomposity, the arrogance to rule over the rest of us, whether it’s a corporate journalist, a corporate CEO, or a politician. A pie in the face, far more than other forms of protest, seems aimed at that arrogance.

In fact, I don’t think pieing is an act of protest at all. Pie in the face is terrorism (one pie-throwing group calls itself “Al Pieda”) crossed with decency - revenge conducted by people too civilized to use bombs.

SSM Opponent Predicts End of Western Civilization Due To Sexual Disorganization

Posted by Ampersand | October 21st, 2005

Maggie Gallagher, one of the leading intellectuals of the anti-SSM movement, has done a truly remarkable crash and burn while guest-blogging on the prominent right-wing blog The Volokh Conspiracy. (Here’s a link to all her Volokh posts).

I should mention that Maggie and I have had a couple of polite exchanges, and although I disagree with her about virtually everything but the color of the sky I think she’s eloquent and smart. So I was genuinely surprised at how poorly she defended her views, given a conservative (albeit libertarian-leaning) forum and seemingly unlimited space. Kieran at Crooked Timber describes what happened:

Maggie Gallagher’s guest appearance at the Volokh Conspiracy has taken a rapid turn for the worse. She keeps putting up scattershot posts that resolutely fail to engage with any of the reasonable questions and criticisms an increasingly exasperated group of commenters have repeatedly offered her. It irritates the commenters no end that she begins posts with phrases like “Let me clarify” and then doesn’t clear anything up.

The primary “reasonable question” Maggie won’t (or can’t) address coherently is this: How, specifically, will civil recognition of same-sex marriage alter heterosexual couple’s decisions to marry and/or divorce? (This is, of course, a question that no SSM opponent has ever answered with anything but hand-waving.)

The low point, I think, is when - stretching to demonstrate an actual harm to heterosexuals caused by SSM - Maggie suggests that same sex marriage will destroy Western Civilization within two centuries:

When anthropologists in the thirties went out into the vanishing world of human diversity, the reason they found marriage everywhere is that societies that do not hang onto the marriage idea do not survive very long.

But marriage in a particular society is not inevitable; death by sexual disorganization is always an option. Happens quite a bit actually. cf. Roman empire.

So in one sense I’m not worried about marriage. In spite of the progressive mythology that the drive to gay marriage is the irresistible wave of the future, I’m quite confident that 200 years from now, we’re not going to be living in a world where gay marriage is the norm.

I’m just not sure of the place of Western civilization in that future world.

Henry at Crooked Timber comments: “‘Explaining’ the collapse of Rome seems to be one of those historical Rorschach tests in which quack amateur sociologists stare into the inkblots and see their own prejudices and crackpottery staring back out at them.”

For those who don’t want to wade through the 16,000 often painfully embarrassing words Maggie has written on Volokh so far, Orin Kerr provides a Cliff Notes version:

The argument is that extending marriage to include same-sex couples would not just give rights to a small subset of the population, but would radically transform what marriage is. So long as only opposite-sex couples can marry, the thinking goes, marriage is linked to procreation; if same-sex couples can marry, too, then marriage is transformed into something else entirely. Adding same-sex marriage would ruin the old institution and create a new one, and the new institution would not longer retain a focus on having and raising children. Viewed in that light, same sex marriage is a threat to society: by redefining the institution, it will kill off its most important feature.

Maggie agrees that Orin’s summary is “basically” accurate (although I think Orin ought to have written “procreating” rather than “having and raising children,” since Maggie’s argument de-emphasizes the raising of children).

That’s it - that’s the very best case the anti-SSM folks have. No wonder the Volokh commenters are pissed.

Maggie’s argument, taken in it’s best light, can’t support anything except the idea that SSM will lead to a slight marginal acceleration in the trends she’s worried about (and even that is giving Maggie’s case more credit than it merits). And - to paraphrase Volokh commenter Kate:

Staving off a slight accelerating effect isn’t worth denying a class of citizens the dignity of having equal rights.

It’s worth scanning the comments following Maggie’s posts - some of Volokh’s comment-writers provide smart rebuttals to Maggie’s arguments. Also, watch Volokh next week, when SSM-advocate Dale Carpenter will guest blog. Call me a crazy pop-eyed optimist, but I bet that Carpenter will be able to make a coherent case for his views - and do so without predicting Western Civ’s downfall.

Seven Posts About Abortion, Prenatal Testing and Down Syndrome

Posted by Ampersand | October 19th, 2005

Post 1: Trite criticisms of a Washington Post essay.

Alas reader “Lee” sent me a link to this Washington Post piece by Patricia Bauer. Here’s a few choice bits, but you may want to read the whole thing.

Whenever I am out with Margaret, I’m conscious that she represents a group whose ranks are shrinking because of the wide availability of prenatal testing and abortion. I don’t know how many pregnancies are terminated because of prenatal diagnoses of Down syndrome, but some studies estimate 80 to 90 percent.

Imagine. As Margaret bounces through life, especially out here in the land of the perfect body, I see the way people look at her: curious, surprised, sometimes wary, occasionally disapproving or alarmed. I know that most women of childbearing age that we may encounter have judged her and her cohort, and have found their lives to be not worth living. […]

What I don’t understand is how we as a society can tacitly write off a whole group of people as having no value. I’d like to think that it’s time to put that particular piece of baggage on the table and talk about it, but I’m not optimistic. People want what they want: a perfect baby, a perfect life. To which I say: Good luck. Or maybe, dream on.

And here’s one more piece of un-discussable baggage: This question is a small but nonetheless significant part of what’s driving the abortion discussion in this country. I have to think that there are many pro-choicers who, while paying obeisance to the rights of people with disabilities, want at the same time to preserve their right to ensure that no one with disabilities will be born into their own families. The abortion debate is not just about a woman’s right to choose whether to have a baby; it’s also about a woman’s right to choose which baby she wants to have.

There’s a lot to unpack in this article:

1) Bauer is, I think, correct to believe the lives of people with Down Syndrome are worth as much as other lives. Objectively, having Down doesn’t make life less rich or worthwhile, nor does it make loving and being loved less rewarding.

2) Bauer’s essay is marred by her habit of attributing unflattering beliefs to large groups of people, based on dubious reasoning. For example, she writes “I know that most women of childbearing age that we may encounter have judged her and her cohort, and have found their lives to be not worth living.” Huh? Even among the tiny minority of women of childbearing age who aborted a fetus with Down Syndrome, it’s unfair to assume that they consider people with Down Syndrome to be leading lives not worth living; there are obvious other reasons they might have chosen an abortion (for instance, not believing that they personally had the ability or the resources to care for a child with Down Syndrome).

(Baggage Carousel 4 has further discussion of this point - including dubious speculation about Bauer’s motives. Holy Irony, Batman!)

3) Whatever Washington Post editor edited this sentence:

I don’t know how many pregnancies are terminated because of prenatal diagnoses of Down syndrome, but some studies estimate 80 to 90 percent.

should be sentenced to several months of editing Judith Butler’s essays for readability. It’s impossible that 80 to 90 percent of pregnancies are aborted because of Down syndrome, which only occurs in 1 in every 800-1000 pregnancies. Presumably, the author means that 80 to 90 percent of fetuses with Down Syndrome are aborted.

Post 2: Responses to Pro-Life Responses to Bauer

That’s enough about the essay itself. What about the ideas it brings up? Well, first of all there’s the pro-life response. Let’s get that out of the way.

1) Predictably, many pro-life bloggers have been linking to this piece, some comparing the abortion of disabled fetuses to the Holocaust or genocide. It seems to me that this argument begs the question, when applied to the abortion debate. Deliberately killing thousands of people with Down Syndrome would be genocide, beyond any doubt. But calling the abortion of Down Syndrome fetuses “genocide” assumes that fetuses are people. Whether or not fetuses are people is one of the primary questions pro-choicers and pro-lifers disagree on; you can’t just assume it’s true and then accuse pro-choicers of genocide.

Even pro-life responses that aren’t extreme enough to compare pro-choicers to Nazis tend to make this same basic logical error of assuming what’s at issue.

2) Also on the abortion question, even if we agree that abortion in order to prevent Down syndrome is wrong, and even if we agree that government intervention is called for (two very big ifs), that still doesn’t lead to banning abortion. It would be less extreme to simply ban testing for Down syndrome.

3) If there were a prenatal test for potential obesity, I have no doubt - none whatsoever - that the large majority of expectant mothers in the U.S. would take the test, and would abort any fetus which was likely to become obese. People like me would virtually cease to exist. I’ve been thinking about this hypothetical all day, and although I believe it’s true - given the choice, most mothers would abort a fetus if they knew it would someday look like me - that doesn’t alter my views on whether abortion or prenatal testing should be legal. If the options are limiting women’s reproductive rights or limiting the births of people like me, the latter is the lesser evil.

4) Speaking only for myself, if I were a pregnant woman, told that my fetus had Down syndrome, I believe I’d choose to abort. People with Down syndrome are significantly more likely to die young (Down syndrome is associated with severe heart conditions). My cousin died at age sixteen, in a car accident. My cousin was wonderful and her life well-worth living and all her family and friends are blessed because we were lucky enough to know her; but it would have been better still, immeasurably, had she lived decades longer.

Worldview Warrior disagrees with my approach.

That is reality… you want a perfect baby? Sorry to break it to you, it won’t happen. This desire for perfection is a fundamental longer for the way things ought to be but the means by which we try to obtain perfection in our fallenness is flawed.

I agree that life comes sans guarantee. Some born with terrible heart conditions defy doctor’s expectations by living to 90; some in perfect health die young in stupid car accidents. But even though I can’t control what happens, what’s wrong with trying to improve the odds?

Post 3: Separating the Issues of Down Syndrome and Abortion

Is the reduction in Down syndrome births an issue that involves abortion at all? Put another way, if we took abortion out of the equation, would so many people be appalled at a massive reduction of Down syndrome births?

Imagine it is discovered that dumping folic acid into the water supply cuts Down syndrome births by 80%. Some areas begin putting folic acid into the water (similar to the way some areas have reduced cavities by putting fluoride in drinking water). Hypothetically, let’s assume that this has no side effects.

How many people would object to an 80% reduction in Down syndrome births, if it didn’t involve abortion? From this pro-choicers perspective, there’s no logical distinction between a reduction in Down syndrome births due to a “cure” and a reduction due to voluntary selective abortion. So if someone is appalled by the latter, but okay with the former, that suggests that they’re not really against Down syndrome being wiped out; they’re just anti-abortion.

Post 4: Is Preventing Down Syndrome Ethical?

Future Imperative asks “If aborting an embryo, no matter how crippled, appalls you, how would you feel if you had the technology to cure that unborn child completely?”

Suppose that in the future, scientists discover that trisomy 21 - the condition that leads to Down syndrome - is indirectly caused by a virus which effects one in every 1000 or so births. A program of inoculation wipes out the virus, and Down syndrome in the following generations no one is born with Down syndrome, ever.

Is this genocide? Or a boon to humanity?

I don’t know.

The argument that attempting to prevent disability, is the same as saying disabled people are worthless and should be wiped out, compels but does not persuade me. When I say I’d like to wipe out poverty in my lifetime, that’s not saying that I’ve judged poor people’s lives and found them “not worth living.” If I invent a car seat which better protects spines, so fewer are crippled in accidents, that doesn’t mean I’ve judged the lives of people in wheelchairs not worth living.

Everyone faces limits - but a person with Down syndrome, or a person in a wheelchair, faces limits most of us never experience. If fewer people face those limits, how is that terrible?

On the other hand, that argument ignores the very real prejudice against the disabled. What if the energy put into “curing” disability was instead put into fighting against anti-disabled bigotry? The Useless Tree argues that instead of seeking to ban abortion, we should instead solve the problem of selective abortion of disabled fetuses by increasing understanding (hat tip: 11D):

…We should think of ways to allow people, and especially prospective parents, to see the beauty of children with disabilities. And the first way to do that is to put more resources and attention into supporting families with disabled children.

If securing needed therapies and programs for disabled children in schools was less of a struggle and more of a welcoming and constructive process, then some of the stigma of disability might disappear. If there were more healthy and happy group-living accommodations for adults with disabilities, adults whose parents have passed away, then new parents with disable children would worry less about what the future might hold. If there were as much emphasis in our culture on common humanity as there was on individual productivity (I am, you will remember, against productivity), then there would be less questioning the value or worth of disabled people.

I agree with all that. It is impossible that disability will ever be completely eliminated; even if Down syndrome is wiped out, people will still be born with other disabilities, or become disabled after birth. Since disability can never be “cured,” it logically follows that a genuinely accessible, non-bigoted society is a better and more comprehensive solution to the “problem” of disability.

But doesn’t putting it that way assume that we face an either-or question? The truth is, “both/and” is the most realistic path. We can assume that efforts to reduce disability are good, and still believe that disabled lives are as rich, fulfilling, and worthwhile as the lives of (temporarily) ablebodied people.

But wait a moment - that makes no sense. If “disabled lives are just as rich, fulfilling, and worthwhile,” then isn’t it an enormous waste of money and effort to attempt to prevent or cure disability?

And round and round I go.

Post 5: Is It a Disability to Have a Disability?

The truth is, I think disabilities disable people. Is that bigoted of me?

Some people find that painting, comics, and beautiful sights immeasurably enrich their lives; some people aren’t all that touched by that stuff. But no blind person gets the chance to find out if they feel rapture when reading a great comic book.

I realize that many blind people lead full lives, and that there’s as much pleasure to be found in the other four senses as there is in sight. I certainly don’t think a blind person’s life is not worth living. But the world is better when everyone has as many options as possible, and blind people are cut off from many options that they might (or might not) have enjoyed. Nonblind, their choices are broadened.

But then again… everyone faces constraints on their options - it’s part of the human condition. And everyone (well, everyone who doesn’t face direly constraining injustice) faces more options than they’ll ever pursue. If I had been born blind, I wouldn’t love comics; but I would have pursued other interests. Life is short, and possibilities are infinite.

Post 6: Diversity vs. Medicine

Secondhand Smoke, discussing the WaPo essay, writes:

Meanwhile, our futurists sigh in ecstasy at the thought “seizing control of human evolution” and making “better” babies enhanced for increased intelligence, beauty, or longevity. Yet, developmentally disabled people are some of the most “human” people I have ever met, most merely wanting to belong, contribute, love, and be loved. Somehow that point is lost on the Brave New Worlders, as is the very concept of unconditional love for children regardless of “characteristics.”

We are told by “transhumanists” and others that the future will be an individualist’s paradise, with all of us able to remake ourselves and our children into whatever form of life we choose. But the reverse seems true. As we claim to believe in diversity, in many ways we are actually well down the path to destroying it.

Isn’t a more diverse society richer? In this sense, isn’t a society with less blind people, less Down syndrome people, less fat people, etc., simply less interesting and worthwhile?

I’ve always admired Deaf culture - its beautiful and efficient language, its arts, its ability to survive in a larger and too-often hostile culture. But Deaf culture is shrinking as medical science advances, both because fewer and fewer deaf children are born and because incurable deafness is becoming rarer. I can’t say that I think medical advances are bad; nonetheless, I think the utter loss of Deaf culture would be tragic.

If fatness were safely, easily curable, how many fat people - even fat activists - would take the cure? I suspect nearly all of us would. Would a society in which no one was fat be worse?

Post 7: Sort of a Conclusion

In my heart, I can’t get past my belief that we’d be better off with less disability. Disability will never be wiped out, but as science advances it will be reduced, and I believe that’s good.

But logically, I realize that human happiness isn’t based on being able to walk, or see, or learn quickly.

* It is an empirical fact that some disabled people, including many with Down syndrome, lead happy lives; it is also true that some nondisabled people are miserable all their lives.

* Multiple studies have shown that ablebodied people who are basically happy before becoming disabled in an accident, remain basically happy people after the shock of being disabled passes.

So perhaps my heart is wrong.

I don’t think efforts to cure or prevent disability should be stopped, because some disabled people would prefer to be non-disabled. But at the same time, I think it’s more important to reform society, and the way we view disability, ability and the pursuit of happiness. That, in the end, has more potential to improve human lives and bring happiness than medicine does.

Maybe.

An arrest warrant for….

Posted by Pseudo-Adrienne | October 19th, 2005

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A little questionnaire from 1989

Posted by Pseudo-Adrienne | October 18th, 2005

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Monday Baby Blogging - Welcome Maddox!

Posted by Ampersand | October 17th, 2005

Maddox arrives

On Saturday, Maddox Aziel Baker Schlotte- daughter of “Alas” co-blogger Kim (basement variety!) and Kim’s hubby Matt, and sister of Sydney - arrived with some assistance from a bunch of people wearing masks. I don’t remember exactly what time she was born - I think it may have been 11:45am. Maddox weighed 7 pounds 13 ounces at birth, and is 20 inches tall.

Lots of photos in this entry, so click below if you’d like to see ‘em. And be sure to leave comments - Kim is eager to read them!

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Friday Blogging

Posted by Pseudo-Adrienne | October 14th, 2005

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I’m not just an incubator

Posted by Nick Kiddle | October 12th, 2005

In the booklet Listen: your baby’s life before birth, which I received as part of a pack of free samples from various companies, there’s a page devoted to the way hormones cross the placenta, allowing the unborn child to experience, in its own way, the mother’s emotional reactions. It goes on to warn:

Repeated maternal stress should always be avoided during pregnancy, as it may alter the baby’s patterns of sleep and activity on a permanent basis.

That passive construction makes me suspicious. Who’s responsible for avoiding maternal stress? Is it simply saying that we should, as a society, avoid putting pregnant women under too much stress? I could heartily endorse that position. Or is it suggesting that pregnant women, along with everything else we expect of them, have a responsibility to their unborn babies not to get stressed out?

The second half of the sentence isn’t promising either. In my experience of repeated maternal stress, the baby’s sleep patterns are the smallest problem. Stress can make a pregnant women vulnerable to all kinds of health niggles, some of which can turn into serious health problems if they’re not picked up. Stress can lead to depression, to lack of interest in preparations for the baby’s arrival, to dark thoughts of whether it’s too late for abortion. Repeated maternal stress should be avoided because it’s bad for the mother, not just because it could be bad for the baby.

Before I was pregnant, I thought “woman, what woman?” was an attitude held only by fairly extreme pro-lifers who had never come into contact with a pregnant woman in all their sheltered lives. But to my surprise, I keep seeing a very similar attitude from people who provide health care to pregnant women on a daily basis. They talk to me, they look me in the eye, they ask me how I am, but under the surface, I get a distinct impression that they see me as an incubator. The baby is all that matters.

My health visitor - a trained midwife charged with making sure new families have all the support they need - asked me during a routine check-up whether I was eating well. I replied that I was doing my best - a flared-up infection had left me with a low fever, aching joints and no desire to do anything but sleep, and had disrupted my eating patterns for a few days - and got a lecture about how my best wasn’t good enough. I had to eat a perfectly healthy diet at all times because the baby needs nutrients.

A pregnant woman needs to eat well for her own sake, not just the baby’s. Iron-deficiency anaemia is especially common in pregnancy, and makes any tired, lethargic feelings even worse. More seriously, if her diet doesn’t supply enough calcium for her needs and the baby’s, Mother Nature harshly dictates that the baby comes first. If the price of strong bones for the little one is erosion of the mother’s teeth, too bad for the mother’s teeth.

Why didn’t my health visitor remind me of these health issues? Why did she concentrate instead on the harm an inadequate diet could do my baby? I think the answer lies in a belief that goes deep in our society: a pregnant woman is a womb first and a human being second. Because I’ve chosen to have this baby, many people assume I’ve also chosen to put my personality to one side for at least nine months and think about nothing but the baby, all day and all night.

Sometimes I do put the baby’s needs before my own wishes - when I switch to orange juice after the first beer rather than run the risk of damaging the baby with my pre-pregnancy alcohol consumption, for instance. And sometimes, knowing I’m helping my baby as well as myself gives me the courage to stand up for things I wouldn’t otherwise stand up for. But other times, I’m just myself; the same self I was before I was pregnant. I oversleep and skip breakfast. I walk a couple of miles to take in a football match. I grieve for the bits of my past that didn’t stop hurting just because I have a new life inside me.

I don’t believe I’m unusual in any of this. I guess most women who are pregnant by choice and looking forward to having the baby will want to do the best they can for their child, but I don’t imagine anyone can support nine months of being nothing but an incubator. We all have to balance the baby’s needs against our own - “Yes, it’s better for the baby if I eat wholesome, home-cooked meals, but tonight I’m too shattered to do anything but shove a frozen pizza in the oven” - and sometimes the balance we strike won’t be easy for onlookers to understand.

Women’s choices - especially when it comes to motherhood - come under intense scrutiny from society. I feel as if I need to defend myself against the charges of skipping breakfast, thereby depriving my baby of vital nutrients; of letting myself get stressed, thereby disrupting my baby’s sleep patterns; of being unfit to be pregnant in the first place, thereby forcing my baby to develop in a sub-standard womb. The world throws advice at me from all sides, and I have neither the experience nor the confidence to sort out the vital from the trivial. I defer to the greater experience of medical professionals, but they invariably err on the side of protecting the baby from every possible harm.

In the early days of my pregnancy, I became concerned that the vitamin C tablets I was taking for my own health and comfort had an advisory on the packaging that they shouldn’t be taken during pregnancy without medical advice. I checked with my doctor; he told me not to take them. He couldn’t point to any specific danger to the baby, but there was “no point” in taking them. He could have informed me of the risks and allowed me to decide for myself whether the benefits outweighed them, but he didn’t.

Treating pregnant women as incubators with no needs or wishes of their own isn’t just anti-feminist, it’s probably also counter-productive. If the medical establishment doesn’t seem interested in meeting my needs, I’m going to start trusting it less. This is fine if I can simultaneously develop my own robust sense of what risks are acceptable - like my mother, who by her fourth child had a very good idea of how much alcohol she could safely consume during pregnancy - but I could all too easily come to dangerously wrong conclusions. Disregarding the advice that there’s no point taking vitamin C probably won’t do much harm; disregarding the advice that headaches and blurred vision are grounds for an immediate trip to the hospital could be fatal to mother and child.

Pregnant women are as capable of making their own decisions as any other segment of the population. We know what’s right for us, and if we’re given enough information, we can co-ordinate that with what’s right for our babies and strike a balance. But society - and given my defensiveness I’m inclined to consider myself part of the problem - needs to stop brushing our needs aside as trivial and start trusting us to make those decisions.

Links to various bits of silliness

Posted by Ampersand | October 11th, 2005

Harry Potter and the Hogwarts Dance Team
Matt introduced the Hogwarts Dance Team to me by saying, “I’m not someone who uses ‘gay’ as an adjective. But this is the gayest thing I’ve ever seen.” It’s awesome - well worth the download time.

“The Aristocrats” as Bob Newhart would perform it
If you’ve never heard recordings of Bob Newhart’s old stand-up comedy, you’ve missed some great stuff. I’m not sure how funny this will be if you haven’t heard Newhart’s stand-up, but if you have heard it this is very giggleworthy.

“He Is The Box”
Law professor Ann Althouse blogs:

“He is the box.” Said by me in a discussion just now with a colleague. Topic: how Harriet Miers will behave if she gets to the Supreme Court. The “he” is Justice Scalia.

Her readers respond in comments by suggesting a number of increasingly ridiculous contexts in which Ann might have said “He is the box.” They also suggest a number of songs, for some reason. Probably the most fun I’ve ever had reading the comments on a law professor’s blog.

Upcoming News
A very funny (or horrifying) prediction of what the newspapers will be saying when Alan Greenspan’s replacement is named.

The Convertible Armchair / Stovetop
Vestal Design presents this very neat spacesaving solution. Because “you’ll never sit and cook at the same time.” (Hat tip: Boing Boing.)

The Far Side Lives On
As Chris Bertram points out, this quote - from a perfectly serious book about “alternative country music” - would make a fine caption for a Far Side cartoon.

Lazily labelled as “folk rock” during their ten-year career together, Richard and Linda were as attuned to Americana as anyone living in a Sufi commune in rural Norfolk could ever hope to be.

Monday Baby Blogging - Final edition as an only child!

Posted by Ampersand | October 10th, 2005

In honor of Sydney’s last week as an only child, here are various cute photos of Syndey playing by herself.

Sydney with Cthulu doll

When I say “by herself,” I’m not counting her Cthulhu doll, which Phil and I got her for her first birthday.

Cthulhu doll

I heart this doll.

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Why the Indiana bill bothers me

Posted by Nick Kiddle | October 5th, 2005

The “unauthorised reproduction” bill from Indiana bothers me for one very specific and personal reason, as well as a whole host of more general political reasons that have been well covered elsewhere. Preventing unmarried women from conceiving by any means other than sexual intercourse can only encourage those unmarried women who, like me, badly want a child to conceive via sexual intercourse - in other words, to do what I did.

I’ve alluded only vaguely to the circumstances that led to my becoming pregnant, but the short version goes something like this. A long-term relationship came to an end, and the manner of its ending made it very clear to me that making plans that depended on my having a partner would only set me up for more disappointment. If I wanted to achieve any of the dreams or ambitions I had - including the dream of becoming a parent - I would have to do it alone.

I considered various means of fulfilling that dream, such as adoption or conception via a sperm donor, and realised most of them would be made unavailable to me - fertility treatment was beyond my budget, and I had a sneaking suspicion that my gender dysphoria would disqualify me as a potential adoptive parent. I finally settled on the old-fashioned method of having unprotected sex with willing men, in the belief that this was the simplest method.

Perhaps it was the simplest of the available options, but it was far from simple. To begin with, my desire for a more or less anonymous sperm donor led me to have sex with the kind of men who have unprotected sex with women they’ve just met and ask no questions. I put myself - and my baby - at risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases, and although I’ve since tested negative, the guilty awareness that I was one of the lucky ones will not leave me. Not every woman who takes this route will be as fortunate.

Finally, I abandoned my pursuit of anonymity and turned instead to a trusted male friend. I got pregnant at the first attempt, but that was only the beginning of the difficulties. When I said, “I want to get pregnant,” he understood, “I want to move in with you and submit to your authority on all child-rearing matters,” and became frustrated and angry when my behaviour didn’t bear this out. The wrangling over this destroyed any chance of a continuing friendship between us, but worse, he is legally entangled in my life despite neither of us desiring this. Had I used an official sperm donor, he would have remained forever anonymous and legally unconnected with me and the child; since I did not, my baby’s father has a legal obligation to pay child support and a legal right to turn my life upside-down by applying for custody of a child he’s repeatedly told me he doesn’t want.

It’s hard to say whether I regret the choices I made. I certainly don’t regret the pregnancy, and I’m still looking forward to the birth of my baby. Is it regret to say that I would have preferred a clean, safe encounter with a turkey baster to the current tangle of uncertainties? Is it regret to counsel any woman in the position I was in last spring to think long and hard about the disadvantages of this supposedly simple route to parenthood?

I don’t know whether anyone, married or single, has a right to a child. I don’t know whether some barriers to parenthood are justified in the interests of the child, or who should have the authority to decide what’s in a child’s interest. But I do know that some people are desperate for a child. If one possible route to parenthood is blocked, they will switch, as I did, to an unblocked route, even though it might be more dangerous for them and for any children produced.

You might believe that a straight married couple make the best possible parents for a child. But that isn’t the question you should be asking. Single women and lesbian couples will be parents whatever you try to do. The question is whether they would make better parents if they were free from HIV and untroubled by legal entanglements with the biological father. Which do you think is in a child’s best interests?

Lies, Hypocrisy and Same-Sex Marriage

Posted by Ampersand | October 5th, 2005

A lot of people are lying or double-dealing about Same-Sex Marriage lately….

Anti-SSM Signature Gatherers Trick Voters Into Signing Petitions

The Boston Globe reports that anti-equality signature gatherers have used trickery to get people to sign the anti-gay-marriage initiative petition.

She said that when she signed the wine initiative, a woman who was collecting names told her that she needed to sign somewhere else, too. Only when she pressed, Sacks said, was she told that the second signature was for the gay-marriage question.

”I was so upset about the whole thing,” said Sacks, a freelance researcher who lives in Worcester. ”It was completely egregious. It was completely misleading. It was completely incorrect.”

The pro-gay marriage group MassEquality[…] said yesterday that they have received more than 40 complaints so far.

UPDATE: A new Boston Globe article on this issue.

Anti-SSM Leaders Cite Fake Medical Organization

The Canadian Conference on Catholic Bishops and The Bishop of Calgary are among the many anti-SSM folks to cite a group called “The American College of Pediatricians,” which claims that scientific evidence shows that children are endangered if they’re raised by same-sex couples. Boy, a group called “The American College of Pediatricians” must be official and scientific, right?

Actually, the “ACP” is an anti-gay front group with a single employee. It seems likely that they use a deceptive name in hopes that people will confuse them with an actual medical organization, the 60,000-member American Academy of Pediatrics.

Howard Dean Thinks Being Anti-SSM Is Only Objectionable In Republicans

The Washington Blade notes that Howard Dean has been ripping into Governor Arnold for his vetoing of same-sex marriage. But Dean himself is anti-SSM in the same way Arnold is, saying that Vermont’s existing civil union laws - which are very similar to California’s existing domestic partnership laws - should be good enough for queers. How can Dean call Arnold a homophobe for supporting the exact same status quo that Dean himself favors in Vermont? What a hypocrite!

More Anti-SSM Lies About The Netherlands

This post on the Brussels Journal website makes it sound as if polygamous marriage has been legalized in the Netherlands - causing it to be linked to by SSM opponents far and wide: “Victor de Bruijn (46) from Roosendaal ‘married’ both Bianca (31) and Mirjam (35) in a ceremony before a notary who duly registered their civil union.”

But Lee Badgett, an economist at the University of Massachusetts who has studied the impact of SSM in the Netherlands, says the translation isn’t honest:

This article is ridiculous. Don’t be fooled—Dutch law does not allow [legally recognized] polygamy, including legal recognition for this kind of threesome. The Dutch registered partnership law (see below) very clearly does not allow this kind of partnership. The blogger whose link you quote mistranslated (deliberately, I suspect) the Dutch word “samenlevingscontract”, which is a private cohabitation contract that this threesome apparently signed, as “civil union” and “marriage”. But “civil unions” don’t exist in the Netherlands…the correct legal term is registered partnerships (the proper translation of the Dutch term).

From Book 1 of Dutch Civil Code (translated by Ian Sumner and Hans Warendorf):
Article 80a.

1. A person may only be involved in one registered partnership with one other person whether of the same or of opposite sex at any one time.
2. Persons who enter into a registered partnership may not at the same time be married.

“Bi-Positional” Mayor of NYC Praises SSM in Public, Opposes It In Court

And NYC mayor Mike Bloomburg, who vocally courted the queer-friendly vote (which is pretty essential in New York City) and stated his support for same-sex marriage, has been quietly fighting SSM in court.

“Unauthorized Reproduction”

Posted by Pseudo-Adrienne | October 4th, 2005

This post was removed by request of the author.

Amp is a Sell-Out

Posted by Ampersand | October 4th, 2005

Here’s one of the reasons I didn’t have much time to post last month: An illustration job done for Commerce Magazine, a Portland business mag. This is the first time I got to do a full-page, full-color magazine illustration, so that was fun.

Damn that Patriarchal Breast Cancer!

Posted by Ampersand | October 4th, 2005

Twisty of I Blame the Patriarchy, a jewel of the feminist blogosphere (if jewels can be nasty, witty and tough), has been diagnosed with breast cancer. If you’re a fan - and I imagine most “Alas” readers are, or should be - go over and wish her well.

And after that, read the first of what I’m sure will become a series featuring Twisty skewering the cancer-treatment establishment. In this installment, Twisty learns that she is insufficiently cancer-upbeat.

Homeless Women In Portland Losing Shelter Space

Posted by Ampersand | October 4th, 2005

I just recieved this via email… I encourage all my Portland readers - and, heck, anyone else who is interested - to email Mayor Potter and Erik Sten. And if you have a blog, please consider giving this post a link, because it might help. Unlike many politicians, Tom Potter and Erik Sten actually do have better sides that can be appealed to, so a deluge of emails might do some real good.

(And yes, obviously this email is a couple of days old. But the issue - the need for Portland to convert some of the existing unused shelters to emergency space for homeless women, as immediately as possible - has not gone away).

HOMELESS WOMEN’S ACTION ALERT!

TELL MAYOR POTTER AND ERIK STEN IT IS UNACCEPTABLE TO DUMP MORE HOMELESS WOMEN ON THE STREETS THIS WEEKEND!

With the city pulling its funding from the Salvation Army’s Harbor Lights Program, beginning tomorrow night, October 1, an additional fourteen homeless women will be dumped on Portland’s streets. As of tomorrow, the city will be providing an unbelievably low THIRTY shelter spaces for homeless women (and this figure includes the twenty remaining cots at Harbor Lights, where women are provided with neither meals, nor showers and must leave each morning at 6:30 a.m.). Compared to the number of homeless women on the streets, this is a drop in the bucket. In addition, there are currently FAR fewer emergency beds for single women than for men!

PHONE, E-MAIL AND TEXT MESSAGE Mayor Tom Potter and Erik Sten TODAY and tell them it is unacceptable for more homeless women to be dumped on the streets of this city. While the ultimate goal is affordable housing for all, until that goal is achieved, the City must provide adequate emergency housing. If Portland can open its heart to the recent Katrina evacuees (as well it should) why not to displaced persons in our own city?

Mayor Tom Potter
Phone: 503-823-4120
E-Mail: mayorpotter@ci.portland.or.us

Erik Sten
Phone: 503-823-3589
E-mail: erik@ci.portland.or.us

UPDATE: Check out this excellent related post (including the text of an email sent to Potter and Sten) over at Malice Aforethought.